“That is normal”


Normal can be comforting. 

If we think we are odd, to be told that this is normal, this feeling (if we believe it) can be comforting. It is good sometimes to discover we are not “odd”.

In a session, it can be difficult to not say to a patient, this is normal, that is a normal reaction, your feelings are perfectly normal. 

It is true. 

Sometimes it is not what the patient wants to hear. A lot of times, mostly because they do not feel this is the case.

Sometimes because they want to feel that they are not normal.

Or how could there be a “normal” reaction or behaviour, response or feeling, for what they went through?

I have a new patient.  I met her in the hospital yesterday, we spent a lot of time together. Her sixth attempt to end things was just thwarted, barely, she has slipped through the cracks in the “system”. This happens all too often. Not receiving help after her previous attempts, filing some of those attempts away as acting out or seeking attention. 

This too, can be “normal”.  Sad as it is. 

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Silent Suggestions


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I have to keep up, I have to post

I am behind, it is like I have nothing to say

That can’t be right

so I best make a post

you know, a …


so here it is

Nice and neat

delivered even

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You don’t need a fiddle, but maybe a fork…

Update to yesterdays zucchini dilemma…

I googled to see if there was another way to cook zucchini that we have not tried.  I stumbled across a video where the person posting the recipe said… “I have more zucchini than I know what to do with, So much that I fed it to the cows.”(we don’t have cows, so that is not an option for us…. just saying) When I found this recipe I loved it, sorry cows all the zucchini is mine now.”

Ok, so not having cows I still wanted to try this recipe, but I always change recipes so I will tell you what I did.

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bumper crop

September has arrived, though it doesn’t feel like it as we are in another heat wave. If the humidity wasn’t so high I would go yeehaa, but alas, it is like a jungle outside. I am hoping for our long weekend, which shows clear skies in the forecast…00 0000and warm temps…. thermometer,  that the humidity will be lower. 

Our gardens did well for the most part this summer, we planted a huge variety of tomato plants, that yielded lots and lots of different tomatoes from tiny red ones to pear shaped yellow tiny ones yellowPearTomato to larger pineapple tomatoes that were yummy. The plants are still filled with tomatoes that are ripe and ripening, so I will go yeeehaaa now. I think I like the yellow tomatoes best, we have four different kinds of them. They are lower acid and sweeter. 

Oh Oh Oh, look at this, isn’t it wonderful?


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Are you serious?

As I went for a jog last night, I noticed where they have removed a set of train tracks, to make room for a walking trail. This will be nice, I guess the tracks are trainless now… a sign of progress? As our nation stops manufacturing? Global economy, is it a good thing?

From the Globe & Mail:

“The average Canadian family now spends more money on taxes than on food, clothing and shelter, according to a report by the Fraser Institute.

“With growth in the total tax bill outpacing the cost of basic necessities, taxes now eat up more family income, so families have less money available to spend, save or pay down household debt,” said Charles Lammam, director of fiscal studies at the Fraser Institute, in a statement.

The report from the Vancouver-based think tank found that last year, the average Canadian family spent 42.1 per cent of its income on taxes and 36.6 per cent on basic necessities. The average family in that year made $79,010 and paid $33,272 in total taxes while spending just $28,887 on food, clothing and shelter combined.

The institute tracks the numbers through its Canadian Consumer Tax Index, which tracks the total tax bill of the average Canadian family from 1961 to 2014. Taxes tracked include income, payroll, sales, property, health, fuel and alcohol.

Since 1961, the average Canadian family’s total tax bill increased by 1,886 per cent, outpacing increases in food, clothing and shelter, according to the index.”

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Flying herds

We were back to the  cottage this weekend, summer is zipping by so fast, there are some signs of fall now too, the nights are cooling off, so are the days, well finally, as last week was terribly hot.

Nature knows when the seasons are about to change, the birds seem to be one of our first signs. They gather in flocks, some trees will have literally thousands of birds tweeting away. Probably they use the hash tag #itstimetogosouth I am not sure, but I know they are tweeting. uhm. twittering?



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