Silent Sessions

I am going to talk, hmm type, about a part of therapy, well a few parts. The quiet parts.

Establishing goals in therapy is important, they can be long range or short term. Goals will change as therapy progresses, often hurdles need to be overcome, so the goals change to help with those hurdles, progressing toward the initial or primary goals we established.

As a therapist we see the goal and know how to reach it, we can just say to the patient, do this, this and this, stop doing this this and this. But this will not achieve anything. It really is not that simple.

Therapy often proceeds at a crawl, slow steps, as many forward as possible but with the understanding there will be many taken backwards too. Therapy is often a retraining, this does not occur overnight.

There will be times when it seems there is no advancement at all.

Sessions become silent

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Liebster Award

Joyce nominated me for the Liebster Award. :)

I confess I am very far behind (years… eeeps) on accepting and re-awarding awards, I maintain comments are reward enough for me. It also gets me off the hook with answering the questions that are posed with each award…. So this time I am going to answer the questions properly, with due dilligance, with the answers expected, in my normally evasive way, uhm… I should pick one of those?

Joyce asked:

1. Where do you live?
2. What do you find most satisfying about blogging?
3. What is the hardest thing about blogging?
4. What do you think is the biggest problem facing mental health today?
5. Have you found that the blogging community is a great source of support?
6. How long have you been blogging?
7. What is your passion in life?
8. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live?
9. Why?
10. What do you like most about yourself?
11. What are you the most proud of?

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Life is not blue and white.

Woo hoo Mr Putin made a new flag.

They, his group of flag making people or “he” call/s it the Straight flag. Though I bet when it is flying that it bends with the wind. I think he or someone may have borrowed the flag from some French group as they were annoyed but he did change the colour of it from theirs (seems their flag is limited in scope as well) so it is now original right? You keep the design but change the colour so it is a new design. ?

I suspected that he rushed his flag to production though. as it was just blue and white. Oh here is his preliminary flag. russia-unveils-straight-pride-flag

I said preliminary as I am sure he meant to colour it, just being in a hurry and all, he must have skipped a step. So I dabbed on a bit of colour. 

I tweeted the new flag too, seems many agreed, last I checked, in ten hours or so some 17,000 people viewed it. Oh I just checked, it is 19,000 now, since I started typing another two thousand took a peek.

Here it is, the finished version that Mr. Putin can borrow, it looks much nicer now I think. I didn’t know what his hashtag said at the bottom of his flag, so not to get into trouble I made a hashtag that is more understandable. 


Psssst…. Mr. Putin, in the 21st century, we have colour.


mmmmmm burgers and fries… sort of.

mmmmmm burgers and fries… sort of.

Last night we felt like having hamburgers, it was raining out, quite hard, so we decided we should cook indoors. I have found a burger that is fried is moister than grilling, so this was not bad news. We would have to tough it out with moist burgers.

Of course with a burger you need fries. Nice thick cut ones, hmmm wrong image.  fries (Small)

Then we thought hmmm,.. fries with gravy is very nice too. fries gravy (Small)

Having a French Canadian background, when you have fries with gravy you automatically reach for cheese curds…..poutine (Small) because poutine is just so great. 

But we were out of cheese curds. (insert sad face here)

We did stumble across a large wheel of brie that we had though… hmmmm

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It is not Ham

It is not Ham

Back Bacon

Peameal bacon

Canadian Bacon

Three different things?


But it seems that many buy or eat what they call Canadian bacon, and it is not. It is some strange ham that is usually dry and they are missing out on something tasty. ♫


This is not Canadian Bacon, stop blaming us for it.

This is Ham.

So what is Canadian peameal back bacon?

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I now pronounce you…. a member of the 21st century

Welcome to the 21st Century United States, where intellect and not archaic beliefs rule,

where equality and human rights are deemed to be important.

Where People have rights, not restrictions.


“No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right.

The judgment of the Court of Appeals for the Sixth Circuit is Reversed.

It is so ordered”

Congratulations to the people of the United States!

The world is changing, we are maturing, we are becoming more respectful.

It isn’t about politics
it isn’t about taxes
it isn’t about procreation
it isn’t about religion
it isn’t about you

it is about love

it is not gay marriage
it is not same sex marriage
it is not homosexual marriage
it is not lesbian marriage
it is marriage
it is love


Miss you