Oh, I am watching you all cringe. Why do we do so with one word?
You feel accusations, it is a derogatory comment. Or when used for someone else, you quietly nod and keep distance… when you feel it your self, it is again something else, something scary.
Mental Health, does that sound better?
It should. It isn’t something that should be hidden, avoided, masked, frowned upon.
If your car isn’t right, you take it to the shop, you describe all the strange noises, you aren’t embarrassed or shy. You bring in the parts that fell off, listen to the diagnosis and get things repaired.
When you have an ache that doesn’t go away, eventually you go see the doctor and have it attended to.
*Taps your forehead* When things go a muck in here we need to attend to them as well. We need to do the same with our car, describe everything, conceal nothing, not feel embarrassed, shy, reserved, humiliated. It is just another part of our body, repairs are sometimes needed.
But we often don’t.
social outcast, they will lock me up, I can cope on my own… all these thoughts keep you from doing anything.
Perhaps you can cope on your own. *looks at you* can you? you know deep down, be honest.
You know, with a bit of help, maybe your life will be much richer, less stress, more sleep, less worry, more happiness…
It strikes us now and again.
For some it is a morning, a day, maybe a week. For others, it is much more, much longer, much stronger.
We see no reason for it, everything is going well. We just can’t shake it.
It leads us down dark paths
People tell us to cheer up, tomorrow will be a better day, how was your day today… they mean well. it doesn’t help. They are just words.
We need to take a deep breath and just like we do with our car, or a broken finger, we need to seek some help, some advice, some council.
It is scary, but it shouldn’t be. It is the first step that is hard, but once it is taken, we are on the path to restore, calmness, where we are comfortable. You can feel it, that comfort, thinking about that first step with hope.
Maybe not right away, not likely, but without that fist step, it will elude us, dance out of just out of reach.
Take the step, seek that council, speak honestly, what you think is bothering you, may not be the real issue. Hold nothing back.
Often antidepressants may be prescribed, maybe something else, sometimes talking things through is all that is needed. Sorting them out, putting them in perspective. but you need to take that step.
Oh you don’t like meds. *nods* but sometimes a little pill can change your life, and it is nothing to be feared, or embarrassed about. Chemicals go awry in the brain at times, out of balance. *shrugs* don’t fear that. Do you point and laugh at someone in a cast? or a bandage for a cut? surgery that removes a bad appendix?
So why is the mind different?
When your depression is becoming a key part of your life, your work or school, disrupting sleep… you are hearing voices, crying, for no reason. you are thinking of taking that dark path, the one that has no return.
Please call your doctor, and I don’t mean tomorrow, next week or soon… I mean right now, and if they tell you to to see a therapist, don’t delay, don’t fear it, don’t be embarrassed, you are taking your first step now. It is a hard step. But please take it.
I am not going to judge you, avoid you, frown or laugh. I will hug you just the same, perhaps a bit tighter. Ask how it is going, how are the meds, are there any side effects. Just as I would if you had the flu or if your car was just serviced.
The mind is delicate at times, but don’t fear it. It isn’t all shadows… darkness, it may be the hardest thing you do, taking that fist step, the one away from the darkness.
but what happens if you don’t?
Now I can tell you exercise is good for you, we all know that, but get more, really get your heart pumping. It really is good for you. Even better if you can do it with others, a lot better.
You could benefit from more social encounters, joining a group that has some sort of activity you like is great, but sometimes it costs more than you can afford..
But you can volunteer for something. The world is always looking for people to help with this or that, pick something where you will be with others. It can be soooo rewarding. And the social exposure is good for you, but pick something where people are positive, uplifting. It rubs off. Volunteering for something, seeing the smiles you bring, the rewards you get are uplifting, magical.
You can share your thoughts with a friend, someone you trust. I think you should.
But I also think you should take that first step, please don’t put it off. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain!
*points to the exclamation mark* I don’t use them often.