Recent posts have been full of thought and depth. Time to turn a corner as we digest them a bit. But we will revisit, of that I am sure. Glancing at the online news this morning, an article caught my attention. It is not a new issue, but seems to be growing. It was titled…
Should kids be banned from public places?
I saw this and gasped, but the article went on…
AirAsia introduced “quiet zones” meant “exclusively for guests age 12 and above” in economy class this week, effectively shunning ankle-biters and their parents to the rear of the plane, by the lavatory, on all flights as of next February.
This is not a new bit of news, restaurants have been shunning noisy children as well. Banning them.
Movie theaters.. Music concerts..
I know parents need to go out too, and honestly when I see a child, red faced, screaming, I get a sympathetic grin, an awwww. But that is not the real problem. Here, another quote from the article.
Parents and children are highly enmeshed now, argued Dr. Jean Twenge, a San Diego State University psychology professor who researches generational shifts and sees a highly permissive parenting culture taking hold in the middle class. She said the current outcry isn’t so much anti-child as it is critical of bad parenting: When your kid is hanging over a neighbour’s booth and running circles around the waiter, it makes de facto babysitters of us all.
“There are parents who just let their kids get away with murder and then everybody hates them. That, I think most people agree, is reprehensible,” said Twenge, who is also a mother of three and author of The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement.
My grin vanishes, when I am at a restaurant, enjoying, or trying to, my meal.. and a little one is running around, tugging on my chair as they pass, screaming.. and the parents are ignoring them. ?????
If I go to a concert, it was not to watch a child misbehaving while their parents enjoy the show.. as their young one keeps bumping into me, or took my smile as an invitation to become a part of my life.
At a movie, a crying baby is annoying, just as much as that twit that opens their smart phone and the bright glare distracts me, or the super twit that didn’t set it to quiet, and the ring tone goes off.. chariots of fire is not what I came to listen to. AND YOU DON’T HAVE TO ANSWER THE PHONE.. sheish…
sorry, a side rant. lol.
The constant getting up and down in the theater because they are bored…
So yes, I can see how people are looking for restrictions, or bans or curfews. When parents go out, but feel the rest of the people will watch, that they are entitled (oh no, that word again) to go out too.
Don’t get me wrong, I love children. sooooo much. And I have more patience with them at these activities, when they are running about than most. But I don’t feel it is right that they do, or create a disturbance for others that are trying to enjoy these events.
On an airplane, for a 4 hour flight… would you be upset if I stood beside you and just screamed in your face the whole time? not fair is it?
When you see a couple dining out, exchanging those special smiles, rings glinting on their fingers, comforted in the fact they have a babysitter at home watching their loved ones, while they have a special moment.. and a youngster from another table charges by.. and collides into their table.. or stands behind them screaming “I don’t like carrots” at their parents three tables away…
it sort of ruins the moment.
And that couple doesn’t have an abundance of sympathy, wondering if their babysitter was a waste of money now…
I know couples, and singles need to go out too. They also need to control things faster, and not in a mean way that makes everyone else cringe. I don’t want to hear you scold your child. And to be frank, doing that in public is very bad for the youngster. You never admonish someone in front of others, it is always to be done in private.
Now obviously pulling their hand away from an open flame and saying no.. is something you do when it happens, but to go into a tirade with everyone pretending not to hear… come on.
so, banning, curfews.. limitations.. are they the way we are going to go? Why has this not been something that was done years and years ago? This is my question. I am fairly certain children are not something new.. they have been around for quite a few years now haven’t they?
So why has this not been an issue before? What has changed?