Traumatic Events

I am encountering more people today, it started last night, that are feeling more sadness, depression and anxiety over the current events. Now if one of you are reading this, and I know you are, no this post is not for you alone, honestly I have had a larger number of “contacts” today that this has touched, and sessions quickly booked for some as well. You are not alone.

I am not going to talk about the event at all, as months from now this post may apply to something else and others may glean something from it.

The world is filled with good and evil. Evil will often rear its ugly head and do something that will be terrible. Media pounces on it and provides us with coverage. Of course we want to know what happens in the world. Perhaps though, sometimes coverage is too good. Media has a way of drawing us in, more touching stories, graphic images or videos… it is how they make money.

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Empathy is a terrific thing, compassion, love of others, even those we never met or knew. It makes us better people.

There are times though were these feelings will overcome us. They may cause stress or anxiety, even depression.

Some of us are more susceptible to this. Empathetic’s, HSP’s, sensitive people will feel these emotions, anxiety sadness even stronger. But all of us may find this hard to deal with.

You may find you are dwelling on the event, searching for more news, and there will be a lot, most will make you sadder, angry. Sleep may be interrupted. You may feel fear, anxiety. Avoid some things, or become more protective of your loved ones. You should limit how much media exposure you are having. It may be hard to avoid or to resist, perhaps it is wise though, to be more careful at exposure. 

Children in your house may be quietly watching the news, absorbing it. maybe too quietly. Talk to them. They may be watching the event replayed over and over, media does this. But they may think there have been a lot of events. Perhaps a shooting, or a crash that is played over and over… they may think  it is happening over and over.

Media does not always report good things. The world is filled with good things, it is mostly safe. Mostly beautiful. Try to remember this. 

Avoid watching the news before bed if you feel it is having a pull on you, what ever this event may be. You are not being disrespectful. If an event is plaguing you, don’t watch live tv coverage, if you feel the need to know more, read a newspaper where it is not so graphic and easier to stop reading. This is not bad of you, to avoid this. There are times where something may just pull too hard at you, you feel it more.

This applies to your children, a TV is on in a house, sometimes all day, in the background, perhaps they are being over exposed to a traumatic event.

Your children may ask why do bad things happen. You are asking this now. I wish I had an answer for you, but think on this too, we are a more aware society, almost everyone carries a camera now, most will shoot video, we have social media where connectivity is so easy and so fluid. Bad news spreads quickly, there is more coverage of it.

The world is not becoming evil, there is not more bad news now than ever before. We are mostly just more aware of it now.

Some events can trigger things in you, they can awaken slumbering memories. The media after an event will cover it for some time. So it may be hard to dismiss or move on. If you feel traumatized, stress is building or depression and or anxiety are taking over, talk with someone. 🙂 there is no shame in this. Never feel shame at seeking some help. 

 

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About sensuousamberville

I am a Practitioner, teacher and student. I think we should always be students, we should keep our minds open, to continue to learn. :-) Now a mother of two little ones.

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  1. My sense is that the randomness of the bombing coupled with the horrifying and graphic injuries up to and including so many severed limbs is what is so terribly disconcerting. It makes me want to just withdraw, yet I know I can’t. I can’t let “them” win. Thanks for helping me Amber. For anyone else reading, please say a silent prayer not only for those affected yesterday in Boston, but also for the students at Virginia Tech ruthlessly killed 6 years ago today – may they rest in peace and may peace come to their families and loved ones.

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  2. Too much sadness… insightful and caring post Amber. xx

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  3. Children are more impressionable than people realize. People don’t think children pay much attention to the news, but I remember hearing about a lot of gruesome stories when I was a kid, and they frightened me quite a bit. Like Jeffrey Dahmer.

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    • It is true, they are quietly watching the events unfold absorbing without clarification. “focus on the helpers” is the term used, not just to take their minds off the tragedy, but to show that there are helpers out there, to keep you safe.

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