Not always time for a ho ho ho, this holiday.

Christmas can be a hard time of year. Emotions are stronger, memories are awakened. It is not all tinsel and glitter.

Loved ones absent, are noticed with more clarity over the holiday, we see other families cuddling together and our losses are harder to take. Perhaps we are alone now, this makes Christmas a different thing all together. Perhaps we have offers to join a family, but often do not as we feel it is intruding on their special time.

But Christmas is that. Sharing, not just gifts and smiles, but sharing the day with others. So maybe it is not intruding if someone reaches out to us and asks if we will join them. Perhaps it makes their Christmas more special also.


We are doing this, we reached out, not just to family. But to a boy and his mom. To share Christmas with us. They are alone now. Remembrance day is not their only day they are reminded of their loss, Christmas awakens that feeling strongly too. Their family will grow this Christmas Eve though, as we slip a puppy in his stocking. (yes with his moms permission).

I know how hard Christmas was for me, after I lost my father. How family joined us for that first Christmas. It was a hard time, but with them there, it was a special time too. 

I also know that he would not want us to be unhappy, though it is a hard thing to face, especially over this holiday, a holiday of families.

It is a time when memories are strong, our loss of loved ones tugs strongly. 

People reach out though, when they do, reach back. Even if just a little. It spreads a bit of a glow in you, sometimes that glow can grow. 

It is not just loss of loved ones that tugs at us. This time of year is a busy time for me, the days are the shortest now. This lack of light I know is very bothersome for many. The long winter staring back at them. It is a hard time for finances too. We want to buy gifts for those we love. Sometimes we know we can’t buy them the “great” gift we want to. Sometimes we do anyway and know what is going to be ahead of us, the burden of that expense we should not have taken on. The stress of exams, the realization of courses not going well… the end of the year too makes some look back at uncompleted goals. 

So it is a hard time for many, not the Ho Ho Ho time we all wish for.

I would love to finish this off with a few words that make it all better. Words are just groupings of letters though, some creative, some rambling on with no helpful meaning. 

The ho ho ho feeling comes from within. Words will not bring it out. Sharing sometimes will, sharing of a conversation, a session that leaves you comfortable, a hug, a phone call or emails.. cards exchanged with a nice photo included. Reaching out to someone, to share the holiday with. Accepting when someone reaches to you.

You are not alone though, the world is smaller, we are all connected now. More of us know one another. Look at the blogs you follow, the people that comment on those blogs, many comment on your blog too, you start to see many caring people reading, commenting  and following your blog, and the blogs you read and follow. Some don’t have blogs, but comment. But you are not alone. If you feel that way, reach out, we don’t have to wait, for someone to reach out to us. 




About sensuousamberville

I am a Practitioner, teacher and student. I think we should always be students, we should keep our minds open, to continue to learn. :-) Now a mother of two little ones.

9 responses »

  1. ramblingsfromamum

    A beautiful post lovely girl. Reminding us we are not alone, though some will find Christmas a sad time, with the loss of those they love and hold close to their hearts… Sorry about your dad…I can’t imagine how painful your first Christmas was without him, but as you said family gathered around to encourage and support. I was going to write about… and I looked up and saw your tag… I miss you Katie …we all do…. (hugs) xx

  2. I’ve felt like an intruder (I’ve explained my Christmas situation to you before) but I never thought that maybe it makes my sort of family’s day more special. Thank you. Maybe it does.

  3. This is a lovely post


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