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Personality disorders

Personality disorders

(this is a somewhat lengthy post and not entry level, should you have questions, feel free to ask)

Hollywood and the Media often will portray someone with a “Mental Condition”, often they bandy the term psychopath about. 

The question often arises, are they a psychopath or sociopath… neither term is used any longer, and there was always question between the two, as they were mostly the same. The term used now is Antisocial Personality Disorder. There continues to be, however, arguments and dissension on if ASPD should be all encompassing, or if it should even be considered a mental disorder as it is used so often in court, to escape crimes.

This is not what this post is about however. This is just to define what we now consider to be personality disorders, a basis of understanding about them with the Hollywood hype removed. 

One would think then, that this means the persons Personality is off… This is not quite right though. It more applies to a category of disorders that relate to a maladaptive reaction, belief, thinking or feeling. Their personality is not really any different from anyone else’s. Psychological geek talk though, personality is defined by the pattern of thinking, feeling, reacting or behaving. If we all lived alone in caves, this would not be an issue, but we are a social creature, a personality disorder is more in regard to social experiences. How we interpret the information we receive in this social experience can be maladapted. Misperceived. This can apply to how we look at ourself as well, or how we react to others in a social setting. This is refereed to as our “environment”, more psychological geekologie.

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So you want a label, is this a good thing?

I have done posts before about diagnosis and how this can be difficult.

This post is a bit more narrow as it will deal with one disorder.

Tis a newer one in the grand scope of things, of course I am talking of BPD, Borderline Personality Disorder.

So is it hard to diagnose? Yes and no.

Is it misdiagnosed often? Unfortunately this is often the case.

Why? ahhh, now this is the question. There are answers too.

To clarify the title, I am not saying that a diagnosis is a label. In this case though, it often is.This is the stigma associated with this diagnosis. This is something we must strive to remove from our thinking. 

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Teen angst? Staying connected with your teenager

Don’t you just love it when someone tells you how to raise your children?

Well then, this should really rattle you then 🙂


oh oh, did you cringe?

It is a great time of life, you know everything that there is to know by then, your body is doing interesting things… Experimenting and testing seems to be the thing to try, push some limits even. Hormones need to be explored…

Parents too, by then you know how difficult they are to raise. 

You love them, but they keep talking to you… I mean why?

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How to deal with someone with borderline personality disorder

I am doing an unexpected, for me, post. Sometimes with most posts I will have a plan for a few days that perhaps this is where one will go, many times I will have a draft simmering that I will finish off.. or for some they can be a recipe, or something fun… or even something that happened that caught me or my eye.

I have noticed though a search term coming up quite often. “how to deal with someone with borderline personality disorder” in my dashboard.

Not my favorite title for a blog, sort of insulting in a fashion, and this is not my intent, more to just answer the search term as I have seen it so often this past week.

When people reach out for advice, tis hard not to reply somewhat.

I would like help with this too, many of my followers have BPD, and who can offer better insight?

Everyone is different, so I am starting that way. People are people, someone that suffers with BPD… well they are no different than you, perhaps they just have some challenges to overcome. With your help too, that can be easier. It can be challenging for you as well.

Living with or working with someone that suffers with BPD can be challenging. Even difficult. It can be very rewarding too, as these people are often very very bright, creative and yes loving.

I have a short answer for that search term. Understanding. 

Sounds simple right? Here is the twist though. You will not be able to understand. Not fully. Don’t try. Accept.

For my BPD readers, I will be referring to bpd sufferers as they, them.. tis not being callous, I just don’t like to keep writing bpd sufferers. I also skip around the term borderlines. You are not borderlines, you may suffer with it, it may be a part of you, but it is not you. right? I know it is an “accepted term” Borderlines, I just don’t really like labels.

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Sleepy Time


When interesting things happen.

We seem to need to sleep.


It is a terrible waste of time, but without this recharge, we become dysfunctional.

We know what happens if our sleep is disrupted. It is quite apparent to many of us now, having just had a time change. Picture taken on October 29, 2010 in ParSpringing ahead an hour, losing an hour of sleep. 

To see what that tiny hour does to us, that lost hour. Just one hour. It messes us up for a few days.spring9n-1-web

What happens if you stay up to party, quite late. Of course I know nothing of this.

How long does it take to recover from this?

Everyone seems to need different amounts of sleep but not that different.

now this is going to get interesting.. so wiggle your mouse and click on.


Here is where you click.. to continue.. don’t doze off, or perhaps you should

Self Image

With the recent blogs I want to jump up and down with some words too. Toss them into the pool of thot.. murk up the water a bit.

Not sure why, as the topic has been covered well, and the comments have added a lot to the topic. Well, I do know why. 

But.. oh well, maybe a different spin will emerge.

Lets see…
so read on, there’s more!